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As we grow older, we start to realize how much information our parents hide from us when we’re young. That’s right, Mom and Dad, the birds and the bees didn’t fool me. Okay, maybe it did for a little while, but just like everyone else, I figured it out.

There are certain topics that every parent dreads having to discuss with their children. Without a doubt, sex is the at the top of the list (it’s so awkward that we just call it “the talk”), but the only other topic I remember my parents avoiding like the plague is money. As I’ve grown older, I’ve started to realize why parents don’t like to talk about money, and it’s as simple as these five things.

1. Parents don’t know everything about money.

Parents don’t want to admit to their kids that they don’t know everything they should know about money. When I was a little kid, I was pretty sure my parents knew everything. How else would they have been able to keep answering my endless succession of whys? The truth is your parents may not have taught you about money management because they never learned it themselves.

2. The only way to learn is by making mistakes.

You can read, write, ask, and talk about money all you want, but until you actually do something with your money, you won’t learn anything. Knowledge is only half the battle. Knowing everything about a Roth IRA won’t do you any good if you never open one, and even if you do open one, there’s still a chance that you could lose your money. Learn from your financial successes and failures, and use the experience to help you fight the other half of the battle.

3. Never lend money to your friends.

No, I’m not talking about lending a few bucks to a friend to cover lunch. That’s fine in small doses. I’m talking about what to do when a friend says they have a great idea for a business and need some financial help to get started. Or maybe they found an awesome car but need to borrow some money to pay for it. The answer is simple — no. The only reason you should ever say “yes” is if you can honestly say that you wouldn’t mind never seeing your money again. Otherwise, don’t expect your friendship to last if/when they don’t pay you back.

4. Stuff does not equal wealth.

Just because someone has a lot of nice stuff — a luxury car, designer clothes, a big house, a boat for the weekends, etc. — doesn’t mean that they’re rich. In fact, it might just mean that they spend all of their money on stuff that they may not even be able to afford, which means they’re actually broke. Why don’t our parents teach us this? Because it’s natural to want to keep up with the Joneses, and they may be guilty of overspending themselves.

5. There are trade-offs to everything, including making a lot of money.

I have a rich uncle, and when I was growing up, my parents used to encourage me to talk to him to learn his money secrets. When I went to college, I became friends with someone whose parents are rich. Both cases are stories of self-made millionaires, and after hearing their stories, I’ve realized that there are definitely trade-offs involved. Forget about free time if you start your own business. It’s a 24-hour job. My parents may not be millionaires, but my dad always had the time to coach my little league baseball teams when I was growing up. That wouldn’t have been possible if he had been running a business at the same time. Nothing in life comes for free.

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